Me and my wife, both 32, have been married for 7 years. While at the same time Serotonin levels dip. I just need to get some different perspectives and thoughts about my marriage. Those feelings your wife is talking about go away with time. Although the in depth facts of this are for another post, there has been research to show that Dopamine levels increase in the early phases of ‘love’. 6 posts. Please help at my wits end... Forums: Marriage, Relationships Email this Topic • Print this Page . ... To me, it's not whether or not one has feelings for someone else. On the other hand, if your wife is the type of woman who really believes in marriage and has been loyal to you all the way, then her decision to leave you for another man may come down to your lack of ability to deepen her feelings of love, respect and attraction for you over time. By the way he has two kids with another woman. Cheating isn't about gender. I do not want to destroy a 9 years marriage (4 kids), but I am having a hard time with these feelings. 12 posts, 0 answered Oldest first | Newest first. That's not necessarily the case. She had them for you once, but now it's different. A man or woman could engage in cheating. She is extremely attracted to this older fellow and it turns out that they talked frequently, and my wife was more than interested in engaging in an affair with this man. i admit that i have not been the most romantic person in the world, but this woman is my entire life everything i do is to make sure that she's taken care of. She was open with me, she told me about these feelings, which in my opinion was amazing of her. Topic: My wife says she has feelings for another married man. My wife has admitted to having feelings for another guy, and has kissed him multiple times. Two years ago we separated for six months because she developed feelings for someone else. my wife has feelings for another man? It's just chemicals in the body that react and make a person feel high. I would love to hear people views and thought on my situation or hear another story that is similar. When we are working together she tries to spend as much time with him as she can. Forums / Relationship and family issues / My wife says she has feelings for another married man. danbmoore . My wife of 25 years has a serious crush on a guy we do volunteer work with. She has feelings for someone she works with regularly. It's how you act when you have those feelings. A man or woman can cheat. I was very hurt but very calm and I tried to understand her reasons. We have a 4yr old child. Some people believe that men cheat more than women. I don't know what to tell you, but know that the "in love" feelings are a lie. Oxytocin is the chemical that seems that helps create the bond between two individuals. Whether you're a man or woman, anyone can develop feelings for another person. A Reader Writes… I have been married for 11 years and 2 months ago I found out by accident that my wife is in love with another man. I do not want to destroy a 9 years marriage (4 kids), but I am having a hard time with these feelings. she told me two days ago that she wasn't happy anymore because i don't make her feel wanted. This someone else is someone known to both of us for many years and was a past co worker of my wife’s. Question. She has them with him, but they'll fade once reality sets in. Cancel Find the way. If you cheat, it's because you have commitment issues. I have been on a whirlwind of emotions and it is hard to know if I am doing the right thing! While another brain chemical comes on the scene -Oxytocin. My wife has feeling for another man.