Since we were kids and what not we "dated" for a while and she decided to tell her friends about me. Just don't do anything impulsive. We can never think of even leaving each other.. And we've never met. No matter what he tells you though, I don't think you should pursue him. I’m lost as to what to do. Hi! After a few days he seemed like he was really into me and he listened to me and all my problems, (I’m a single mother of 4) so I had many problems, lol. So just let him be and let him miss you. I'll be leaving abroad for my studies and I don't know when we're going to meet in real. We messaged each other for hours, then had video chat. I absolutely loved reading it, but at the same time, I am crushed at you talking about not wanting to live. Maybe he's not serious into this at all. I have a girl that lives in el salvador. 11. It was an incredible friendship, and if he had said that's all he wanted up front, that would have been fine. We don't live very far from each other, but we're both cheap and refuse to pay $500 for a back and forth ticket. If he has strong enough feelings (as you had for him), then he would come back on his own. We got ready to go out to dinner. I think I'll give it another year or two, save my money, then use it as a means to fulfill a bucket list before I end this nightmare. part of me wants to move on with my life and find somebody else but my heart is saying don't give up. It can happen by listening to someone’s voice and can happen in person as well. she is 15,000km far from me .she chat me by saying that she likes my name, Hiii.. Sorry if i misspelled something English is not my first langue! i just dont want to think of him as a partner without anything in return. I think it's good that we met online because it gave us the opportunity to fall in love with each other's hearts before each other's bodies. Report abuse. I'm afraid. Thanks so much for your opinions. The problem for me was that nothing ever lasted. We started blowing kisses, then it became intimate. Can you fall in love with someone you've never actually met in … He is everything I have been looking for. Because lies can't be the foundation of a relationship. We got along so well, we eventually exchange cell numbers. That's an interesting question; however, the answer to that question is not as apparent or straightforward. I am just confused but when I think back to when we first met I always initiated the conversation. We went to dinner and he shared personal things about his past relationship. I wouldn't be able to handle an over jealous guy. Try telling him things such as it doesn't matter how you look, or that it dosn't matter if he misrepresented himself with a picture of someone else, that you'd be okay with whoever he is and you just want to see him and see how that goes. I need some advice should i just cut all ties with this person or what? Some guys may be insecure about their looks, but if they want to pursue the relationship they eventually have to let themselves be seen isn't it? I have fallen in love with a federal prisoner I met online. I just feel so disappointed because he talked about me spending Christmas with him and more. However, a friend of mine is making a trip to Montreal this summer which is a halfway point, and asked if I wanted to go. To say both of our nerves were rattled is the understatement of my life. I am also committed so feelings from side are never going to develop ever. You CAN fall in love with someone online... That is how my first love started. One-sided affection is not going to take you anywhere. We like to call each other twins because we have so much in common. He continued declaring his love for me . He was taking me to the airport but we ate lunch first. I express regret that i am not with her. I've talked to people online before and have had a few relationships in real life from it. A bit of jelousy is okay but this guy is jealous even though you guys have never met in person. He and I had been secretly stalking each other on Facebook and had been friends for two years. He found me from one dating site and I never entertained him for 3 days there but the turning point was when he messaged me on the 3rd time. I had real girlfriends and she had real boyfriends. I have fallen in love with a guy from Brazil. TLDR: Tinder....deep connection....suspense....long distance....been a year...didn't meet yet. To me, this is the biggest problem that a person who connects with another person online faces. "The idea can create illusions that youâre in a healthy relationship because it is what we choose not to see. While falling in love with someone you can't have can be difficult, you can still get over it as you would with any legitimate breakup. No … It gradually increased and we began sharing more and more until we both knew we had fallen for each other. 0 0. I appreciate it. I don't know maybe when we start video chatting everything will seem easier, but right now, it kind of feels like its tearing me apart. We have sent photos and short video’s but we have never met and never expressed interest to ‘date’. Last months we had the chance to met in person but there always happened something to mess up, so I got tired of that type of "friendship" and said goodbye to him. Since we both for a while were in different cities,we decided we will meet when he will be back. Reason why they don't want to get exposed. My son's dad and I didn't walkout at all. I have a family and this may not be good for me." I met a lady on FB through mutual friends. I (20) am currently talking to a girl the same age as me that lives in the same state but still quite far. I’d rather have what we have now than risk that. If he doesn’t message, he never was worth your time and effort. It's also an idealized version of love because without meeting in real life, you also conveniently skip the everyday nuances and challenges that arise when you share a life together.". He said “See I am sad you are leaving.” He got up to shower. He is about 6 or 7 years younger to me. I guess what made me love her, or become infatuated with her, is basically because her work as a caregiver. And now I have a money-making job I could surely not replace were I to quite and move across the country and she would never move her kids to Florida, lessening their chances at great lives/educations/whatnot. I will defiantly let you know how it goes. Am I ever going to be able to meet this gentleman whom I have been talking to for 10 months now on line he has been a widow for 6 years and ask me to marry him three different times we talk on the phone and I seen pictures but never seen his face. I just want your comments on this if anyone else has gone through the same situation.. But it is him who is not so sure. After this happened a few times, it started to seem like he was looking for reasons not to be together, but kept saying he loves me and wants to be together. I hope you can help me with this matter. It's not easy to build a relationship in any form. I just then realized how persistent he was. Its been more than a year and i want to meet him,meet him to end because i know he is not the one yet i want to meet him. Just take it one day at a time for now and be cautious too since he's in another country. I've talked to him on the phone a few times. You never know what the future has in store. But I don't know what went into my mind that I started stalking his facebook. Especially, since both of you live in different countries, don't get ahead of yourself. Our evening was a bit awkward but he brought up that he didn’t believe things happened for a reason but he knew there was a reason we met. But, would i be disappointed to find out she farts a lot in bed, or snores. There is the chance to meet him but idk if this matters, i mean when i think about it online relationships are just loose of time... idk what to do and how to feel but i know that he had really been an important part of my life and although we have never met in person i always felt better when i "was with him". I find him interesting. If you find yourself rationalizing that it is a perfectly fine relationship to your family and friends, it may not be true love," Silva concludes. We've been lovers for almost 4 years. She once broke up with me for two hours because I clicked 'like' an a FB advert with a skinny, heavily tattooed model in it. Do you think I am doing the right thing? I trust him but i think its better for both of us to forget each other... i need help, we met online we chat for awhile he was damn cool and nice and kinda sweet too he tried to ask me out and i always push him away but he still talks to me after awhile our convo kinda gets boring and hes such a convo killer sometimes as well as me at times too so i decided not reply and he didnt text back and i saw his other social media platform he was always down before all this too and i texted him aft weeks like hey how your doing and from there we talk about 1-2 months and i really like to talk to him but i dont have the confident ? He woke me up in the middle of the night by putting his butt against mine. Can you love someone you’ve never met? I've been dating someone online for about a year - We started talking about 1.5 years ago and will liiiikely meet irl for the first time next month. [+3] - talk72000 - 10/02/2006 You could fall in love with someone you never met like a movie star but it is a fantasy love. Online love does happen and has happened for many, but so have online heartbreaks, and I certainly don't want you to join the ranks of the heartbroken ones. They might not even be like who you think they are. It is the looks and the character he/she plays in movies that you … It was thru work initially as we talked on the phone for work purposes. I personally think you never know what someone on the internet is truly like till you meet them in person. I was a little reluctant to send this because I know you are busy and I feel you may be a little disjointed since I left. At one point, like 2 weeks ago the dream about her was intense it seemed like a movie. I met this guy on OkCupid and we seem to hit it off. Can you overlook that fact and love them the same way as you did before you met? Nothing can be built up on a foundation of lies. I can't remember when but I don't think a year passed before I told her I was in love with her. Consequently, I would think you could theoretically fall in love with someone you've never met in person. I woke up the next morning and took a shower. He needs to feel the same for you, and if he doesn't, there is nothing you can do. maybe what i really feel is a loving admiration. It is so hard to just end our relationship but I need to. Well time went on and we eventually met for a week vacation in FL. We’ve known each other for two years. Does it sound too needy? Actually, a bit more than 1 in 5 people in relationships met their partner online. He said “He was just down because I was leaving, the work week was starting, and he just wasn’t excited about his flag football game that day. (I wish this site has a 'reply' button, lol). I am a stay-at-home mom of a 9-year-old daughter. I’m in love with someone but I know I shouldn’t because I will never be with that gentleman. I write this only to say that one can absolutely fall completely in love with another having never met them. In fact, pretty much everyone who has ever fallen for another has gone through these stages, so you can be certain that most of the people in your life can relate to what you’re going through. Don't rush it. I ddnt love anyone for 7 years. Can you actually fall for someone you haven't met? It is better to stand a chance of getting hurt in order to find and keep true love and be happy. You may have very good, honest, genuine intentions and want real love, but can you be really sure that the other person with whom you are chatting to or speaking with shares those intentions? Our week together was, and remains the best week of my life. I have and I am sure you can too. I'm sure you do that, but I just am directing this to other readers of this comment. If you want to know the truth, you can try asking him before you move on. No. It only happens once or twice to the luckiest of us. He pinged me first and then we started to chat. Idk what happen to me.I working abroad and lonely all the time. I normally initiated texts but he occasionally would. But we know what each other looks like, through posting pictures, and vdeo calls. I KNOW she loves me. Unfortunately, we live 500 miles away from each other, and were both busy caring for kids, working, etc., and something kept going wrong when we made plans to get together. You may like their thoughts/views on various subjects and like the online person you've met, but what if the person turns out to be, well, not as attractive physically when you first meet them. I just want to end it...but I can't seem to let him go. And without a moment of hesitation, my answer was…….YES!!! We are not official or anything but we are talking about moving together already. I asked the girl online if she would meet me there and she said yes so I told my buddy I was all in. Once you get him to do that, you would at least know what the real story was. I went to visit last weekend and our first night was great. I need to meet that person but it's kinda hopeless. Even though most people say (to be politically correct more than anything else) that outward beauty doesn't matter to them, generally most people value beauty in a potential partner. Still we haven't met. I jumped through hoops to attempt to 'show' her I didn't not only 'not mind' her curvaceous body, but that it was indeed a ;selling feature'.... a 'reason' I was physically attracted to her. I met a man on an online dating site about two years ago. We both felt like we were soul mates and fate had finally brought us together. After several months of bonding, I felt confident he was my other half, that we were destined to be together, and that we would be spend the rest of our lives together. But he kept saying he wanted to meet, but wouldn't commit to a time or place, and when we did have tentative plans to meet, there was always a last minute reason he couldn't. One of them was a girl that for some reason I liked more than anyone I have ever met. Even if we meet now for few days only.. Our next meeting would be in another year. I love her unconditionally, even if she chooses another man over me. Our relationship lasted about 2 years he was always there for me. 6 days back, I met a guy on Instagram. Also, you might like their sense of humor—this does come through no matter what the medium, whether it's speech, chat, or text. Every time we plan to meet he'll say things like I couldn't find no one to cover for my shift. On the way to the restaurant he was texting. @Sandy, if a guy doesn't want to show himself on video chat, that most likely is because he misrepresented himself as to who he truly is. We met randomly online and after several months (we were in love before we met) we decided to meet. I asked to Skype and he keeps saying he can’t because he’s in military camp & because of security reasons. All i want is a meet-up so that i can end my investment of emotional energy. This is probably the first time i actually experiencing something like this, he actually keep on appearing in my dreams and his post on social media always makes me wonder whether isit me or there is someone else, i believe i will get over it soon ahhahahah :-), A guy messaged me online 6 months ago we hit it off instantly chatted for hours on watsapp and eventually on the phone.After 6 weeks he disappeared for two weeks thought that was it was upset then he appeared again i was so happy excepting his rubbish excuse he had been on jury duty, I was happily getting to know somebody online and we were pretty much in a hurry to meet each other face to face face to face he looked about 10 years older about 6 in shorter and he talk with his mouth full of food several times I was so disappointed cuz we got along famously before we met so I had to send him a text message the next day that said I could not fall in love with somebody shorter than me sorry. When I was leaving after my visit he asked me to visit again. She had 3 children and still lived in the same house with her second husband with whom she'd been separated for well over a year. Once you know the truth, you can decide what you want to do. I knew her for twelve years. after all ,u two haven't met. This is what I intend to send him. Maybe he just wants to see you and have a fling online and nothing serious than that and so he is okay with pretending to be someone else or just be content to have an anonymous online identity and chat with you. For when you cant stop pinching yourself and cant catch your breath let these falling in love quotes speak straight to your heart. I told her that today. After that we are chatting continously. by Sanguine77 ( m ): 12:36pm On Feb 24 , 2015 But I met one guy there and he is very sweet and funny. It's supposed to be an app where you swipe to find friends, but anyways, I used it mostly for fun, and it has kind of become a dating app instead. I have texted a couple times with no response. I only go through my daily chores in hopes I'll meet another,but I am intelligent enough to know the chances of that are slim now that the bar has been set so high by my chubby little angle who I dream about every day. People generally get attracted to each other based on common ideas, common outlook towards life, common value systems, and similar views on important issues. She is a caregiver, and i ask about the patient she looks after. He passed away suddenly last year and i am still trying to rebuild my life. He is several years younger than me but we connected on so many levels. Come on, Eric, please don't get into that zone. For all you know, the other person may be twice the age he/she actually claims to be, he/she may be married and claim to be single, they may be showing you pictures of someone else but may claim that the person in the picture is in fact them.